Below is a transcription of a lecture on how to benefit from the blessed days of Dhul-Hijjah by Umm ‘Abdur-Rahmân. May Allâh reward the sister who transcribed the lecture and sent it as a contribution to be placed on this blog:
“By the ten nights.” [Al- Fajr 89:2]
The “ten nights” which Allâh [subhâna wa ta’âlâ] is swearing by here, are the first 10 days of Dhul-Hijjah.  Allâh [subhâna wa ta’âlâ] swears an oath by them, and swearing an oath by something is indicative of its importance and great benefit.
Ibn ‘Abbâs [radi Allâhu ‘anhu] narrated that Prophet [sall-Allâhu ‘alayhi wa sallam] said: “There is no deed more precious in the sight of Allâh, or greater in reward, than a good deed done during the ten days of Sacrifice.” He was asked: “Not even jihâd for the sake of Allâh?” He said: “Not even jihâd for the sake of Allâh, except in the case of a man who went out to fight giving himself and his wealth up for the cause, and came back with nothing.” 
So, my sisters [and brothers] take note of the following:
Have the intention to spread this important information.
It is a great chance to collect uncountable hasanât [rewards].
It is a great chance to renew your relation with Allâh [subhâna wa ta’âlâ].
Prepare now so you can start from the first night/day of the month [i.e. as soon as Dhul-Hijjah is announced]. You don’t want to miss a moment of the best days in the sight of Allâh [subhâna wa ta’âlâ].
Since the Prophet [sall-Allâhu ‘alayhi wa sallam] referred to the 10 days of Dhul-Hijjah as: “…no days better than these days in the sight of Allâh.” , the scholars have said that these are better than Ramadan.  Therefore, be very vigilant and don’t waste these precious moments. Ask Allâh to help you to benefit from this period of His special Grace.
Ask yourself these questions [non-rhetorical]:
Did you intend to benefit from these days?
What have you done to prepare for these 10 days?
Did you prepare a program?
What is your plan of action?
Here is a brief guide to help you to prepare for the best days of the year [inspired by a lecture by Shaykh Muhammad Hassan Yâqûb]:
A person who wishes to interpret the Qur’ân (a mufassir) must fulfil certain conditions and qualities before he is allowed to explain the Qur’an to people – not everybody can just pick up the Book of Allâh and start interpreting it.
As was quoted earlier from Imâm ash-Shâfi’î (d.204 A.H.]: “It is impermissible for any person to give verdicts concerning the religion of Allâh, unless he is knowledgeable of the Book of Allâh, and its nâsikh from its mansûkh, and its muhkam from its mutashâbih, and its interpretation, and its process of revelation, and its makkî from its madanî, and its asbâb an-nuzûl. On top of this, he must be knowledgeable of the Sunnah…” 
From the information in the preceding chapter concerning the historical development of the tafsîr, its correct methodology, and examples of deviant tafsîrs, the following conditions could be deduced as necessary for the achievement of an authentic tafsîr of Qur’ân. Conversely, the omission of any one of the following conditions will more than likely result in a distorted interpretation of the Qur’ân.
I am a subscriber to a number of Muslim mailing lists and regularly get numerous beneficial emails arrive in my inbox, the latest of which is courtesy of the Muslim Saturday Club – Here are a few extracts from the email [click the “more” link below to read the article in full]:
“The MSC issued a comprehensive questionnaire to almost 50 growing Muslimahs aged 11+. The very last question put to them read: ‘What worldly item do you think destroys your relationship with Allâh?’ 48 girls answered: ‘TV’
“…stats show that the average person watches more than 4 hours of TV each day (or 28 hours/week, or 2 months of non-stop TV-watching per year). In a 65-year life, that person will have spent 9 years of their life glued to the box.”
“As a responsible adult would you allow a child in your care to view, be subjected to or be part of any of the following:
– Would you allow your child to attend a live music concert lasting a number of hours, featuring loud blaring music (along with inappropriate lyrics), scantly dressed musicians and screaming fans?
– Would you allow your child to witness a crime, rape, robbery, shooting, murder etc?
– Would you allow your child to be in the company of those with little shame and immorality, e.g. would you allow them to free mix, witness first hand the ‘enchanting’ atmosphere in a pub, upcoming bar, night club, holiday resort etc?
– Would you allow your child to experiment with drugs, handle a gun, befriend and learn from a gangster?”
Mansûr bin ‘Ammar narrates: I went out at the end of one night, mistakenly thinking that the morning had begun. Seeing that it was still dark, I sat down beside a small door [of a house]. While I was sitting there, I heard the voice of a young man crying; he was saying: “By Your Might, and by Your Majesty, with my sin I did not intend to oppose You. When I disobeyed You, I was not ignorant of Your punishment, nor was I seeking it out. And I did not take lightly the fact that You are All-Seeing. It is just that my soul enticed me, and my wretchedness overcame me; also, I became deluded into feeling safe by the fact that You cover me with your screen [protecting me from the sight of others when I sin]. I disobeyed You through my ignorance, and I went against Your [commands] through my own fault. Now who will save me from Your punishment? And if Your rope has been cut from my [hand], then whose rope can I cling to? Alas for the days I have spent disobeying my Lord! O, woe unto me! How often do I repent, yet how often do I then return to sinning! Is not the time near when I will be shy of my Lord [i.e., shy of disobeying Him]?”
On the authority of Abû Masûd Uqbah bin ‘Âmir al-Ansâri [radî Allâhu ‘anhu] who said: “The Messenger of Allâh [sall-Allâhu ‘alayhi wa sallam] said: ‘From the words of the previous prophets that the people still find are: If you feel no shame, then do as you wish’.” [Al-Bukhârî]
This portion of the hadîth [i.e. “If you feel no shame, then do as you wish.”] is in the form of an imperative or command. For that reason, it has been interpreted in a number of different ways. Each interpretation shall be discussed separately.
The First Interpretation
Some scholars say that although this phrase is in the form of an imperative, it is actually not meant to be an order. Instead, it is a form of threat or warning. Its meaning is, in other words: “If you have no shame or modesty, then do whatever you wish and Allâh will recompense you – punish you – for what you do.”